Candy O'Terry's Blog
I Miss My Father
Posted 6/17/2011 3:37:00 PM
Dear Diary:
 
I miss my dad.  It's as simple as that.  He died on March 21, 2010. My mom died of breast cancer when I was a teenager, and I'm an only child.  My dad helped me raise my children.  He was my teacher, my biggest fan, my moral compass, my friend and my hero. He was the person who taught me about faith, courage, kindness and truth. 
 
His name was Raymond and he was very hard of hearing.  He had the worst singing voice E-V-E-R, but he sang with gusto anyway.  My father was a flirt with a glint in his big blue Irish eyes and a smile on his face.  He sang songs like "Clementine" and "I've Been Workin On The Railroad".  He even taught my children Christopher and Colleen World War II marching songs. 
 
I was a single mom for 15 years and it was my father who made it possible for me to work the hours I had to work in order to make my way in radio.  He slept on the couch while I did the overnight.  He never missed my son's little league games or boy scout meetings. He dropped Colleen off at ballet, tap class and swim meets.  He told me not to feel badly about that.  He would say, "Candace, that's what family is for."  
 
A few years ago, we were crossing a busy street in Boston and he instinctively reached for my hand.  I took it with gratitude and joy. I guess it doesn't matter how old you are, a girl still needs her Dad. 
 
The tears are falling now.  I wish I could sing with him just one more time.  I wish I could pick up the phone in the Magic studio and hear him say "sounding good, dear".  I wish I could see him come through our kitchen door, arms outstretched to Colleen and me..."My Dove...My Dovelet...get me a drink, my tongue is hanging out!"  
 
So this weekend, I am sending up a prayer of thanks to God for giving me Raymond.   If you are lucky enough to have your father in your life, tell him you love him.  Listen to his stories.  Honor his words and his wisdom. They will comfort you someday.  
 
If I close my eyes...and am very still, I can hear my father singing to me:  You are my sunshine, my only sunshine.  You make me happy when skies are gray.  You'll never know dear, how much I love you, please don't take my sunshine away. 
 
Happy Father's Day Daddy
 
xoxo Your Radio Girl   
 
  
Posted By: Candy O'Terry  

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  1. RuthA posted on 06/18/2011 09:12 AM
    it is so sad to lose someone to love is your father he is in your heart to love candy o'terry and your family
  2. MarthaS_2 posted on 06/20/2011 08:25 AM
    oh candy my dad died the morning after father's day last year -- i read your blog through tears -- miss my dad so much too -- wasn't it wonderful even at "our age" to have had dad's who still helped us -- dad once told me he never stopped worrying about any of his children every single day -- sure miss that worry!!
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